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I am not a doctor or any other type of certified medical professional.  What I am is a person that has ocd and I've done my best to live with it day in and day out. I've had ocd for approximately 16 years and I've learned a lot about it over the years.  I hope that I can share some of the things that I've learned to make your life easier, whether you have ocd or know someone that has ocd. 

There are some great resources that exist for learning about ocd and how to treat it.  I have a lot of respect for the International OCD Foundation and regularly reference and explore their website when I have questions or need to research something that I've heard elsewhere.  Their website is

I have no doubt that there are many of you out there that have valuable information and experiences to share and contribute and I encourage you to do so.  I was inspired to create this blog because of a quote that I came across a few days ago.  It really struck a chord with me and gave me even more motivation to do the work that's necessary and to not let ocd beat me up.  The quote is as follows: We have to convert our suffering into something positive so that we can laugh and enjoy life.  We have a right to that.  We did not come here to suffer.  We came here to fight.  -Martha Silva

I haven't run across a quality website or blog that's content is from the consumer (a person with ocd).  If you know of any, please share. 


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